[MR] [ suprise elevations]

[Becky McEllistrem]

> I wanted my elevation to be a surprise. I did not
> want a writ and a vigil date set some time in the
> future, because then I would have been completely
> stressed out trying to plan everything myself. So in
> this particular discussion I place myself in the
> camp of "The candidate's wishes should be placed
> above all." If your goal is to become a Peer,
> discuss your wishes concerning your vigil and
> elevation with someone close to you - your Peer,
> your spouse/significant other, your best friend.
> When the time comes they will know exactly what to
> do and how to advise the Crown.
> 

Honestly that's the ideal but there are so many times
that this doesn't happen that the subject gets
revisited every other reign.  I think each person is
going to handle stage fright issues or stress issues
differently.  Your peer (or maybe even the other
peers) are there to advise you on how to handle that
and should be watching for that carefully.  However a
good point was brought up.  I would say that if a
candidate knows in advance it does not automatically
mean that the candidate is now in charge of their
ceremony even if they want to be or think they should
be.  It simply means that the candidate's friends will
not be excluded by honest mistake.

Rebecca