[MR] protocal things

[Derrick Solomon]

i have never felt offended or slighted in the least if someone was
unsure how to address me.  the only time it even becomes an issue is
within my own camp when we have visitors of state on any type of
official business.  i do find terms like "tin hat" and "pointy hat" to
be less than appropriate but its never bothered me when a newer person
was unsure of what the proper forms of address are.  

regards
logan

-----Original Message-----
From: atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org
[mailto:atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org] On Behalf Of Laura
Sent: Tuesday, May 16, 2006 12:17 PM
To: atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
Subject: Re: [MR] protocal things

On 5/16/06, Barbara Miller <celtdragonus at yahoo.com> wrote:
<< It actually(to me anyway) feels a bit intimidating to have all the
pointy
hats, not know what to do, not want to offend anyone (still remember the
crazy one in the Outlands) and still have a good time an contribute to
the
group.>>

I should hope (although I may be living in a Utopia-Dreamworld here)
that
any pointy-hat worth their snuff would not be mortally offended if you
did
not bow/curtsey in a non-formal environment.  All this accomplishes is
alienating one of our best resources - new blood. ;)

Being called before court, to the Royal/Baronial pavillion, or to the
high
table at feast are times when even the greenest newbie can probally
figure
out that a simple bow or curtsey is appropriate.  Knowing that you're a
newbie, even if you *were* called into a formal situation and neglected
to
show reverence, I should hope that they wouldn't be terribly offended.
Hopefully someone In The Know would give the newbie a quick rundown of
what
to do.... but if not, it's OK, too.  We all make mistakes - especially
when
we're thrust into a new situation.

I'll admit - I'm still pretty new to this whole thing, so my skills are
rusty at best.  But for me, the best way to learn "unwritten rules" is
to
place yourself in situations where you will be able to observe, ask
questions, and learn.  I've volunteered to retain for our Baroness a few
times, and each time I've learned some new names, new faces, and got a
bit
more of a who's who in the area.  It's been an invaluable resource for
me,
and I've enjoyed contributing to the Barony.  (Plus, the company is
fantabulous. *grin*)

Just my .05,

-Catarina

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