[MR] newbie

[Elspeth]

If you do come to Coronation I will be working at troll (check in) and would
be happy to talk to you.  There also will be an information point/new comers
tent there as well.  I am sure you and all of the new comers will be
welcomed with open arms.  I find it hard to stop talking about the SCA and
love to talk to new comers.  I will be working troll but if you would like
to help out that is a great way to meet people.  Everyone that come to the
event will come through troll.

Hope to see you there and just introduce yourself when you get there.
Elspeth Macalpin


----- Original Message -----
From: "Arthur Donadio" <dukecuan at hotmail.com>
To: <Eventblues at aol.com>
Cc: <atlantia at atlantia.sca.org>
Sent: Tuesday, September 03, 2002 2:14 PM
Subject: Re: [MR] newbie


> My Lady:
> Her Highness has already responded to your post so I will only add that I
> too am sorry that your experience at an Atlantian event was such that you
> are considering not returning.  And I want to thank you for drawing our
> attention to this matter.  I hope you will give us a second chance and
> perhaps attend Coronation this weekend.  If you do, I will leave
> instructions with the troll that you are to be a guest of the Crown and I
> will pay your fee.  Just identify yourself when you arrive.  And if you do
> come, please take the time to introduce yourself to me.  I will be
occupied
> with a number of duties, but I would very much like to speak with you.
>
> Sincerely,
>
> Cuan, Prince of the Atlantians
>
>
> >From: Eventblues at aol.com
> >To: atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
> >Subject: [MR] newbie
> >Date: Tue, 3 Sep 2002 11:55:23 EDT
> >
> >I attended my first event in Atlantia not very long ago.  I won't say
where
> >or when.  I would like to describe my experience and see if you can come
to
> >some consensus for an answer.
> >Saturday, during the event, I could get almost noone to talk to me.
> >I was dressed appropriately in period garb -- nothing ostentatious but
not
> >cheap or gawdy looking, -- period cut and fabric (linen and wool
> >cotehardie)
> >-- quality sewing skills and am not new to costuming.  I am a reasonably
> >attractive female (many people say I am pretty), and in middle age, not
> >over
> >or underweight.  No hairlips or missing body parts. I am not in any way
> >physically repulsive.  I bathed and wore deodorant, changed my underwear,
> >brushed my teeth and wore no perfume.  I was not trying to pick up men (I
> >am
> >married), but trying to make friends primarily with other women.
> >However, no matter how many people I tried to make friends with -- people
> >just generally ignored me.  I tried to strike up conversations with
> >different
> >folks who were not otherwise engaged in an activity.  They would make
> >polite
> >conversation for about 1 minute, then leave.  Later, they would look at
me
> >as
> >if I did not exist.
> >I have good social skills, have a college degree that is not in some
aspect
> >of medieval life -- so I could have things to talk about.  But, no one
> >would
> >give me the chance.
> >No one ever invited me to sit with their group of friends for a minute.
No
> >one ever approached me unless I approached them.  I even offered to help
> >people out with some of the work.
> >Many people would not even make eye contact with me during the day.
> >And, I noticed that I was not the only one at the event in that "no man's
> >land".  Many other people were likewise ostracized.  By about 3:00, I
just
> >gave up and sat in a corner and watched what was going on.
> >The people at my feast table were nice (they were newbies, too).
> >But when the feast was over, the cliques of folks started again.  I
looked
> >around for some of the other folks who had been "left out", but they all
> >left
> >either before, or as soon as the feast was over.
> >Now I realize that folks like to visit with their friends, but does mean
> >excluding people  who could add to your list of friends?  Does no one
have
> >a
> >heart when someone is obviously new or in unfamiliar surroundings?  I
admit
> >that I am a little shy, but I have a good sense of humor and have a lot
to
> >contribute.  But noone bothered to find out.
> >Not sure I will ever go to another event.
> >Any suggestions?
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