[MR] special versus medieval

[Bambi TBNL]

When i joined, way back whenthe primordiald slime was first sentient,  courtesy and soial graces were considered an euqal part of any particular noble qualificaions for entrance to the peerage or even interacting be tween anyone else in the SCA. Whether or not you had a dangly or a tin hat, a white blt , a freeon helm, pf flyer shoes under you itlien ren, or wore scrubs because they were at least drwastring pants and a pullover tunic, everyone deserved courtesy and were inpired to return it. If someone came from another kingdom with an award or a pretty that no one recognized, the standard aceptable reaction was.... " Oooooh... What is that? " Not " it ain't fom here so take it off cause we did not say you could have that!" granted there were still a few peoplel who felt it was their job to be rude and hurtful to bolster their own importance but they were uually out numbered and often found that sort of behavior too expensive to repeat too often...you might find yoursle featu
 red in a comic book or at least ypur very words!!!!!!! Pople who hav earned recognition and throug mundane circumstances find themselve in another geographical location should not have to also feel put upon by not being able to acknowledge their passed work in order to play. Arent w loosing enough members to the current state of affairs? If a history of WHY  will help keep pople working towards a more chivelrous way of handling things like this and keep everyone on the same page... It can only help not hurt.
-----Original Message-----
Date: Friday, May 20, 2011 12:10:04 pm
To: Atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
From: "Becky McEllistrem" <bmcellis at yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [MR] special versus medieval

I believe that those with an elitist fantasy will never be satisfied by SCA or any other group and this is a psychological problem they need to work on and not something for us to encourage or try to feed.

Rebecca


--- On Fri, 5/20/11, Garth G. Groff <ggg9y at virginia.edu> wrote:

> From: Garth G. Groff <ggg9y at virginia.edu>
> Subject: Re: [MR] special versus medieval
> To: Atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
> Date: Friday, May 20, 2011, 11:58 AM
> M'Lady Rebecca,
> 
> With all courtesy, I generally agree with your statements.
> At the same time, whenever I run up against somebody in the
> society who wants to make me feel small so they can feel
> important, somebody who takes on an office and then is too
> busy to do their job when I ask for their help (my biggest
> beef), or some arbitrary rule which feels like a snub, then
> I wonder why I'm here. Fortunately, there are usually more
> satisfactions than slights, though lately the
> dissatisfactions seem to be growing. O.K., so if as you say,
> the SCA isn't supposed to be about making people feel
> special, it still often is (think awards, honors, titles,
> and yes, coronets!). If our organization makes some people
> feel less than special, then they won't continue to play for
> very long. Just ask some folks who are no longer here why
> they left. I contend it is essential for the SCA to balance
> our elitist fantasies with the hard reality of real-life
> egos.
> 
> Kind regards,
> 
> 
> Lord Mungo Napier, Archer of Mallard Lodge
> 
> 
> On 5/20/2011 11:00 AM, Becky McEllistrem wrote:
> > This is a general comment for all so I post it here.
> > 
> > The SCA is an organization which strives to be
> medieval.  It was never intended to be an organization
> which strives to make the individual feel special.
> > 
> > There are special things that happen in SCA like
> meeting some of the best friends I've ever had and
> incredibly gorgeous works of art along with events that draw
> by the thousands.
> > 
> > But there are also special things that happen in real
> life - a birth, a marriage, winning competitions, the growth
> of a business and lots of other kinds of events that draw
> the thousands.
> > 
> > The scope of the SCA was always to be a society of
> courtesy that studied the middle ages.  It was never to
> make any one person or group of people to feel more special
> than the rest.
> > 
> > Thus if you focus serious importance on your need to
> be special and expect SCA to solve this need for you then
> you're playing for all the wrong reasons and will always be
> disappointed.
> > 
> > You will always be disappointed because what one Crown
> can change a future Crown can change back.
> > 
> > You can spend hours and hours and hundreds of dollars
> trying to control the future but what you find out in the
> long run is that controlling the future is just not
> possible.
> > 
> > If you want SCA to fulfill your need to be special I
> recommend a serious look at yourself and your focus. 
> Any changes made will never be enough for long enough.
> > 
> > 
> > 
> > Rebecca the Contrary
> > whose friends always made her feel
> special!<grin>
> >
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