[MR] Courtesy and Events

[Cian Conor MacQuaid]

> The impression I got was that the person had held forth publicly and vociferously without considering the feelings of the feast cook or kitchen staff, NOT simply said that they didn't like a particular dish or a particular kind of food.
> Given that clarification, is it still the opinion of this goodly company that the proper response to such action is no response?
> Your servant aye
> Donal

Donal,

Given that clarification the proper action is not none. If a person
loudly and publicly criticizes anyone not present, cook or otherwise,
the appropriate thing to do is to verify the situation and see if they
may wish to reconsider their words. If this was in fact "publicly and
vociferously" there must have been witnesses. Those are the people who
should have acted. In retrospect the only thing we can do is hope that
we have a proper understanding of the event and encourage people not to
do it again.

To those who say "<Person> was not criticizing the cook, he was
criticizing the feast" There are constructive and destructive ways of
discussing the shortcomings of both people and events. Note that I am
not suggesting that no one ever complain when something is wrong. I am
requesting that people do so with courtesy. When we, as people of honor
and courtesy, witness a mugging, virtual or actual, it behooves us to
act. As already noted, it is all but impossible for us to reconstruct
the events and intents of the moment, which is why it is important to
address such things on the spot.

Please also note that I am occasionally quick to criticize and would
prefer to be reminded to consider my words than to try to fix them once
the damage is thoroughly done and festering.

Cian
-- 
Viscount Cian Conor MacQuaid, KSCA
Marshal - Canton of Sudentorre
Castellan - Barony of Stierbach
Kingdom of Atlantia