[MR] Courtesy and Events

[Aedan Aylwyn]

Go back and read HRH Seonaid's words.  I don't see anywhere that says to
punish or even politely correct the person involved.  It's a non-issue
anyway unless someone can determine who exactly said those words in the
first place.  So it seems to me that all this upset is not accomplishing
anything useful.

Instead what I see is a request to consider your words before speaking, keep
criticisms quiet and private (not loud and public) and make an effort to
praise and show appreciation.  Certainly these are all positive things that
we can *all* strive to do to improve the atmosphere at our events.

She's setting an example and asking us to step up and do the same.  So I
will endeavor to remember these words.   The next time I'm at an event, I'll
try harder to thank those that make a difference: the MOL's that manage our
fighting, the marshals that oversee it, the people running the gate when I
check in, the folks fixing the hall and manning the kitchen and everyone
else that makes a difference, large or small.

The Queen's Order of Courtesy is something I hope one day to be worthy of.
Don't you think we should all work to follow its precepts?  It would
certainly make every event a better experience.

Working anew to set a good example,
Aedan

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Well, so far it's three con and no pro.  

Now, I confess that in my initial post, I used words that could be construed
as inflammatory (literally).  However, I did not mean that the person should
be grabbed and given a stern lecture.  Merely that they should be taken
aside and firmly but gently informed of the hurt their words could and did
cause, and reminded that such complaints are better made privately than
publicly.  I certainly do not advocate "shunning and stunning."

And I understand what if feels like to give offense without intent.  I've
done it, and was devastated to learn what I had done.
 
The impression I got was that the person had held forth publicly and
vociferously without considering the feelings of the feast cook or kitchen
staff, NOT simply said that they didn't like a particular dish or a
particular kind of food.
 
Given that clarification, is it still the opinion of this goodly company
that the proper response to such action is no response?

Your servant aye
Donal
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