[MR] Courtesy and Events

[Sandi Rust]

This is a rather good point. There are several people in the SCA who are 1. picky eaters, 2. allergic, or 3. nit-pickers - there are more of the former two than the latter, fortunately. I am not a picky eater, as my girth will attest; ok, I lie, I don't like marshmallows, and candied yams and I'm allergic to coconut. But, there are many who are, for one reason or another, picky eaters; Medieval cusine challenges them too much. Most will not attend feast, but some will "try" the dish to see is they might like it. Here's the point, at least they *TRY* the dish.  I know how much work it is to cook for over 100 people - Do not be too upset when someone doesn't like a particular dish, but instead ask which part they didn't like and why, It could be something as simple as personal preference, to it being too salty or a piece of meat not done. Communication betwix the concerned parties without the hearsay. Both could go away from the conversation with a bit
 more knowledge as to why and even knowledge on how to improve.

Lady Marie Hélène of the New Forest

--- On Wed, 1/12/11, Beverly Robinson-Curry <brcurry at bellsouth.net> wrote:


From: Beverly Robinson-Curry <brcurry at bellsouth.net>
Subject: Re: [MR] Courtesy and Events
To: "'Merry Rose'" <atlantia at atlantia.sca.org>
Date: Wednesday, January 12, 2011, 2:21 PM


Not being privy to the exact statements made, I think we have not the
right to act as judge and jury of the person in question.  I am not
doubting Her Highnesses' comments or assessment of the situation, 
but rather saying that unless we ourselves
were present, and know exactly what was said, then it is just as wrong 
to leap into vigilante mode and demand they be 'punished' for their sins.

Perhaps, they didn't realize the remarks would be considered disparaging.
Once, I commented that I didn't like pork and don't generally eat it,
as I passed on that day's pork dish.  Imagine my surprise to be told
later that I had 'trashed' the feast.  Would you consider my remark
disparaging?  I didn't, but someone did.  So, with no more information
than 'she trashed the feast', would you take me out to burn my ears
off?  And then, lambast me in a public forum, so that others could
judge me without all the facts?

How, dear cousin, is that any different from the person who made the
alleged disparaging remarks at 12th Night? Perhaps, having had this brought 
to them, they are horribly abashed already, not having intended offense. 

I believe Her Highness' point in bringing this before us, was not to
create a public shunning of said individual, but rather, to remind 
folks to be kinder and more generous of spirit
and more appreciative of those who work so hard to bring to us this
recreation of the medieval meal (and other aspects of our events).


Rhiannon

Mistress Rhiannon ui Neill
Pearl Herald (Ceremony)
Azure Decrescent Herald (Personal Title)
House Corvus, Barony of Hawkwood, Kingdom of Atlantia

I am the master of my fate.
I am the captain of my soul.
                   -Henley


> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: atlantia-bounces at seahorse.atlantia.sca.org [mailto:atlantia-
> > bounces at seahorse.atlantia.sca.org] On Behalf Of jbrmm266 at aol.com
> > Sent: Wednesday, January 12, 2011 12:38 PM
> > To: atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
> > Subject: Re: [MR] Courtesy and Events
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Her Royal Higness wrote:
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > <It has been brought to my attention that this past weekend at
> Kingdom
> > 12th
> > ight, a rather unhappy cicumstance occurred.
> > After the feast, someone made derogatory comments regarding the feast
> > while
> > tanding in the kitchen area and in fact while standing close to the
> > person who
> > ad made the food in question.
> >
> > his caused a great deal of distress and hurt to the gentle involved.>
> >
> > As well I could imagine.
> > I am saddened by this on more than one score.
> > First, that the person in question was so rude and thoughtless as to
> > hold forth publicly in such a manner.
> > Second, that the feast cook and probably much of the kitchen staff
> > heard this and were distressed by it.
> > Third, that the account does not include any description of how this
> > person was dealt wtih.
> > I certainly hope that someone took that individual in charge and very
> > courteously burned his ears off.
> > That's metaphorical, of course,  but I DO hope the individual was
> made
> > to see the error of his ways.
> > Surely if his identity is known to any of the Peerage, one or more
> > would have taken him aside to inform him of how unacceptable
> > His words were.
> > As Her Highness stated, our Society is based on Courtesy and Honour.
> > It has been stated that all that is
> > necessary for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing.  I
> > maintain that it is also true that all
> > that is necessary for rudeness to triumph is for courteous people to
> be
> > silent in the face of discourtesy,
> > to be SO courteous that they look the other way when they encounter
> > rudeness.  I consider it a duty of being
> > a Peer to intervene thus.
> >
> > Your servant aye
> > Donal

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