[MR] Subject: Predator - Caught!

[Maymunah al Siqilliyah]

Oh, so now you want to escape responsibility for what you said and put 
it on the fact that I "read it that way"?   No, sir, you WROTE it that 
way.  I guess it could have been worse, you could have blamed the 
children.   The person to blame is the one who has been arrested.  I 
would think that is obvious.

What Bambi said is true; you cannot be with your child 100% of the 
time.  You have to work and sleep and you sometimes have other 
responsibilities like going to traffic court, even having multiple 
children to care for who have competing requirements.  Also, in order 
for children to grow and learn about the world, you have to give them a 
little freedom and allow them other influences beside your own.  You 
take them to day care, to church and to school.  You leave them with 
relatives for the day or the weekend.  They go to church camp and piano 
lessons and scouting. You put them down to sleep in a house full of 
adults at holidays and parties.   Every time you do that, you are taking 
a risk and you know you are taking a risk.  Every parent worries about 
this kind of risk to their child, it is every parent's worst nightmare.  
But you have no choice - you cannot go live in a cave and lock your 
child in a glass jar until they are 18.   And in every situation that I 
have just mentioned, children have been the target of predators.   
Predators of this type are highly motivated, know what they want to do 
is hated by the rest of society and they spend time trying to find the 
weakness in others that will allow them to have what they want.   
Predators have gone years, even decades, in the midst of a community 
without being found out by masquerading as someone who is trustworthy 
and who cares about children.   They can be ministers, psychologists, 
doctors, teachers, scout masters, band leaders, your cousin, etc.

I do not know the particulars of this situation and I suspect that you 
don't either. Both the police and the SCA officers involved are under 
duress not to give out specific information. The rest is rumor and 
conjecture.   I think most people are jumping to conclusions when they 
assume the abuse occurred at an event or through event sponsored 
children's activities.  How much more of a leap is it to assume that the 
parent just dumped their kids off and then went out on the battle field 
or to visit with friends while the predator had access to their 
children?  The SCA is a relatively small world and word gets passed 
around quickly so the real parents could hear of your words.   And 
outside of those people involved in this particular situation there 
might be on this list people whose children have been abused.    I 
myself, testified in court against a man who was using the SCA as a 
cover for his hobby of exposing his genitals to children.  So there are 
parents that I know of in Atlantia whose children were harmed by that man.

You potentially just told real people, maybe even people you know,  that 
they do not have anyone but themselves to blame for such horrific harm 
to their children, because they are lazy and don't care about their 
kids.  There is a difference between talking about ways to mitigate the 
risk in the future and laying blame on the parents with insults about 
their character thrown in for good measure.  And I can't think of any 
good motivation for you to have said that and I can't imagine someone 
being so self involved as to not consider the consequences of their 
words on such a sensitive subject.




On 8/24/2011 1:39 AM, Logan wrote:
> if that is what you read then yes, i am a "waste of air".  not sure what
> that means but ok.
>
> victims of predators would be so rare if those responsible for their safety
> were.  but ok, lets not look at it that way.  lets just assume that there is
> always a risk and, therefore, no blame can be had.  i mean, if it could
> happen then its bound to happen, right?
>
> again, if thats how you read it.........
>
> logan