[MR] Safety

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Good Morning to the gentles gathered in the Tavern.  

	Please keep a few things in mind: 

	-Predators seek out situations and activities that give them access
to children. They aren't picky about the activity...access is the
important thing. 

	-Predators are often patient, spending months earning the trust of
the family and "grooming" the child to accept the abuse without
raising flags. 

	Please keep your children safe, encourage them to talk to you about
things that may make them uncomfortable and reassure them that you
will do everything to protect them. There are some great books for
opening dialog (a favorite for me is "My Body Belongs to Me"...it's by
Jill Starishevski, I think).  

	I had an opportunity to do some reasearch on juvenille sex offenders
for a class a few years ago and was indebted to those who shared this
information with me. 

	Molly 
 On Mon 08/22/11 1:06 AM , "Logan" Logan at ebonwoulfe.com sent:
  before this becomes a thread of 100 responses i think dulcy nailed
it right
 on the head of the nail. your kids are your responsibility. you made
them,
 now do your job.
 regards
 logan
 father
 "I never did give them hell. I just told the truth, and they thought
it was
 hell." 
 Harry S Truman 
 "If an injury has to be done to a man it should be so severe that
his
 vengeance need not be feared"
 Niccolo Machiavelli
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 -----Original Message-----
 From: 
 [] On Behalf Of Gina
 Shelley
 Sent: Monday, August 22, 2011 12:14 AM
 To: 
 Subject: Re: [MR] Safety
 Thank you. 
 I have said it many times before and I will say it again. Just
because
 someone is a fellow SCAdian, that does not make them automatically
 trustworthy. We have long held this hippy attitude with each other
for
 decades. We can't afford that. And that's been shown in the past,
when we've
 been bitten in the collective butt by our cavalier attitude about
what our
 friends and fellow SCA folk are capable of. Anyone is capable of
anything. 
 It's a fact that most bad stuff we're talking about does not happen
at the
 hands of a creeping stranger. People can and do commit awful acts,
not
 because they had to sneak around and strike when we're not
looking...no,
 they more often do it because they are trusted. So they just stroll
in and
 do something awful right under everyone's noses. 
 Watch your kids. Nobody's "cool" and can be trusted just because
they share
 your hobby. 
 Dulcy
 > The way to protect children is for parents/guardians not to be
stupid.
 Sorry to be blunt, but I can't think of a more kind way to put it.
You
 don't let your kid go off with someone you just met. You don't let
them
 sleep over at a person's house who does not have children themselves
and
 that you've only known for two weeks. Also, train your kids! Teach
them to
 kick and scream if someone tries to take them away from you or from
a public
 area. Teach them that if they feel uncomfortable, to run away and
get back
 to you or at least back into a public area.
 > 
 > Background checks aren't the answer. Responsibility for yourself
and your
 children is.
 > 
 > -Isabella
 > 

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