[MR] A Question of Protocol

[Derrick Solomon]

i cant recall that it was ever a problem for me personally.  on the rare
occasion that someone would not show the expected deference to me i was
usually able to write it off as someone unknowing or someone not worth
the trouble.  basically, someone new to our hobby and uneducated in our
customs or someone i wasn't interested in their displays of false
respect.  so it was never really a big deal when it did happen, which
again was very rare.

i don't ever try to assume the worst in people so i would wager that
when these protocol lapses happen its simple error.

regards
logan

-----Original Message-----
From: atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org
[mailto:atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org] On Behalf Of mweymark
Sent: Tuesday, May 16, 2006 9:21 AM
To: Atlantia
Subject: Re: [MR] A Question of Protocol

Your Grace and everyone,

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

It seems that we all have so many different ways of dealing with this
subject.

I understand that these are those funky "unwritten Laws" and that most
people are "taught" when they join or simply learn through those around
them
as they go along.  But what if those around them are doing it wrong?

Your Grace a question posed to you, when King of Atlantia, did you ever
feel
the need to point out to people a lack of respect in this matter? or was
it
not a big deal? or was it a big deal that you did not address?

Who's teachings are right??

Caterine
who just wants to get it right!

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Derrick Solomon" <d.solomon at mattamymail.com>
To: "Atlantia" <atlantia at atlantia.sca.org>
Sent: Tuesday, May 16, 2006 8:48 AM
Subject: Re: [MR] A Question of Protocol


> while there seems to be no hard and fast rules to it this is my take:
>
> crowns:
> bow to when passing or when passed by
>
> heirs:
> same as crowns
>
> landed baronage:
> only in their barony
>
> royal thrones:
> slight bow when passing
>
>
> i think there is a difference between bowing to show deference and the
> simple head bow (as a sign of respect).  i do the former for my
> king/queen and prince/princess or a baron/baroness (if im in the lands
> they hold for the crown).  the rest is a simple courtesy gesture.
>
> and after years of thinking i knew protocol i ran into a twist this
past
> weekend regarding toasting at feast.  until saturday night my
experience
> has always been that the highest (by op) ranking peer in attendance
> offer a toast to their majesties, the next ranking peer toasted their
> highnesses (if applicable) and then the next would offer the toast to
> the hosting baron/baroness.  well, this weekend TE of the hosting
barony
> opened the toasting by toasting their majesties.  as quests of honor
at
> high table this seemed wrong to me (not bad, just not right) and it
was
> completely different then every feast i have been to in the past.
>
> somewhere in between all of our ideas is the right one.
>
> regards
> logan
>
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