[MR] Re: Secrecy

[Elaine Koogler]

I agree.  I was at a Baronial Investiture where one of my proteges was given
a Golden Dolphin.  I knew she was getting the award, but understood that it
would happen at the evening Court.  I was cooking the event, so did not
attend the first Court in the morning.  Not only did my protege get her GD
at that first Court, she also was made a Court Baroness!  I was right there,
in the kitchen...and no one thought to come get me or Master Phillip!  I was
not amused!

I also missed seeing my lord Phillip get his Pearl...I had just returned
from two weeks in England working, and was exhausted, so didn't go to the
event...didn't know...was very unhappy!

So yes, it's a good thing to not let the candidate know that they're getting
a "cookie", but please, please...let friends and family know.

Kiri


----- Original Message -----
> Message: 2
> From: "Rosine" <nothingbutadame at inthe.sca.org>
> To: "Merry Rose" <atlantia at atlantia.sca.org>
> Date: Sat, 19 Apr 2003 10:08:51 -0400
> Subject: [MR] Secrecy
>
> Since I need to test this addy and it's subscription, I need a subject. So
> here's one:
>
> Secrecy
>
>    We have a couple in our barony - one more high-profile than their
> partner. The High Profile member has now been awarded Kingdom-level
> recognition three times... and in each case, the Beloved Other was not
awar=
> e
> that the award was going to be given. Twice The Other skipped the event in
> order to work/do labs at school (but could have made arrangements to
> attend), and once was volunteering in an area too far away from where
Court
> was being held. In all those times, their Baron and Baroness were present
> but unaware of the impending award. I have heard similar tales about other
> S.Os. and Peers whose squires/protogees/apprentices were awarded
> planned-in-advance honors with no head's up to anyone who could have made
> sure that friends and family were present while still keeping it secret.
>    I think we have lost something important in our quest for the thrill of
> surprise - we've lost our concern for the friends and family of the
honoree=
> .
> And I *don't* think that it's something we can lay on the shoulders of our
> Royals - every territorial baron and baroness, every Order principal,
every
> court herald - every person who helps out by filling in names on a
scroll -
> each of those folks should be carrying an awareness that half of the joy
of
> personal recognition is in seeing the happiness in one's loved-one's eyes,
> to be able to go back to one's friends and get the acclaim, the pat of the
> back, the hugs of joy while still clutching their shiny scroll.
>    So count this as a reminder, to all of us, that there's a large body of
> people who can assist our King and Queen (and Baron and Baronesses) in
> making sure that stories like the one I related above are not the norm in
> this Kingdom any longer.
>
> In service,
> Hr=F3=F0ny Rognvaldsdottir
> (that would be "Rosine of Rowanwald", only better)
> --
> "Has it escaped your memory that Manfred's violences to women opened the
wa=
> y
> to this Kingdom for you?. . . Let me remind you, Oh King, that it was very
> glorious to have conquered Manfred but far more glorious to conquer
oneself=
> .
> Therefore, do you, who have to correct others, conquer yourself and curb
> this appetite, and do not spoil what you have gloriously acquired with
such
> a stain." - The Decameron,  by Boccaccio
>
>
>
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