[MR] Chocolates, Coffee & Courtesy

[Beiskaldi at aol.com]

In a message dated Tue, 23 Oct 2001  3:24:01 PM Eastern Daylight Time, SWRDBABE at aol.com writes:

<much snippage occureth>
> I would also like to remind people that this is a matter of courtesy now to be thought upon.  One of the three staples of our Society the other two being Honor and Chivalry. Instead of giving a person grief for not doing something completely period publicly, if one wishes to give a suggestion or gentle education or concern over authenticity, then they should show the person its directed to the respect of saying something to them privately.  
> 
> Respectively,
> Lady Daniela Schwartzhaupt 
> Barony of Bright Hills 
> Haus Zverge Berge

I just wanted to add, not only saying something to them privately, but doing it in a *constructive* manner.  Looking down one's nose in a maven manner instead of offering to share one's knowledge ruins the recipient's day, makes the maven look like a know-it-all (to put it mildly), and doesn't benefit anyone.  I laud those who have provided documentation onlist to this end. And I hope we all remember that we do this for FUN, and it should be fun for the all, not for the few.

If I make it to Faire, look for me--I'll be the one who has forgotten to hide the Dr. Pepper can....  :)

thyra