[MR] special versus medieval

[Becky McEllistrem]

I believe that those with an elitist fantasy will never be satisfied by SCA or any other group and this is a psychological problem they need to work on and not something for us to encourage or try to feed.

Rebecca


--- On Fri, 5/20/11, Garth G. Groff <ggg9y at virginia.edu> wrote:

> From: Garth G. Groff <ggg9y at virginia.edu>
> Subject: Re: [MR] special versus medieval
> To: Atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
> Date: Friday, May 20, 2011, 11:58 AM
> M'Lady Rebecca,
> 
> With all courtesy, I generally agree with your statements.
> At the same time, whenever I run up against somebody in the
> society who wants to make me feel small so they can feel
> important, somebody who takes on an office and then is too
> busy to do their job when I ask for their help (my biggest
> beef), or some arbitrary rule which feels like a snub, then
> I wonder why I'm here. Fortunately, there are usually more
> satisfactions than slights, though lately the
> dissatisfactions seem to be growing. O.K., so if as you say,
> the SCA isn't supposed to be about making people feel
> special, it still often is (think awards, honors, titles,
> and yes, coronets!). If our organization makes some people
> feel less than special, then they won't continue to play for
> very long. Just ask some folks who are no longer here why
> they left. I contend it is essential for the SCA to balance
> our elitist fantasies with the hard reality of real-life
> egos.
> 
> Kind regards,
> 
> 
> Lord Mungo Napier, Archer of Mallard Lodge
> 
> 
> On 5/20/2011 11:00 AM, Becky McEllistrem wrote:
> > This is a general comment for all so I post it here.
> > 
> > The SCA is an organization which strives to be
> medieval.  It was never intended to be an organization
> which strives to make the individual feel special.
> > 
> > There are special things that happen in SCA like
> meeting some of the best friends I've ever had and
> incredibly gorgeous works of art along with events that draw
> by the thousands.
> > 
> > But there are also special things that happen in real
> life - a birth, a marriage, winning competitions, the growth
> of a business and lots of other kinds of events that draw
> the thousands.
> > 
> > The scope of the SCA was always to be a society of
> courtesy that studied the middle ages.  It was never to
> make any one person or group of people to feel more special
> than the rest.
> > 
> > Thus if you focus serious importance on your need to
> be special and expect SCA to solve this need for you then
> you're playing for all the wrong reasons and will always be
> disappointed.
> > 
> > You will always be disappointed because what one Crown
> can change a future Crown can change back.
> > 
> > You can spend hours and hours and hundreds of dollars
> trying to control the future but what you find out in the
> long run is that controlling the future is just not
> possible.
> > 
> > If you want SCA to fulfill your need to be special I
> recommend a serious look at yourself and your focus. 
> Any changes made will never be enough for long enough.
> > 
> > 
> > 
> > Rebecca the Contrary
> > whose friends always made her feel
> special!<grin>
> >
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