[MR] special versus medieval

[Garth G. Groff]

M'Lady Rebecca,

With all courtesy, I generally agree with your statements. At the same 
time, whenever I run up against somebody in the society who wants to 
make me feel small so they can feel important, somebody who takes on an 
office and then is too busy to do their job when I ask for their help 
(my biggest beef), or some arbitrary rule which feels like a snub, then 
I wonder why I'm here. Fortunately, there are usually more satisfactions 
than slights, though lately the dissatisfactions seem to be growing. 
O.K., so if as you say, the SCA isn't supposed to be about making people 
feel special, it still often is (think awards, honors, titles, and yes, 
coronets!). If our organization makes some people feel less than 
special, then they won't continue to play for very long. Just ask some 
folks who are no longer here why they left. I contend it is essential 
for the SCA to balance our elitist fantasies with the hard reality of 
real-life egos.

Kind regards,


Lord Mungo Napier, Archer of Mallard Lodge


On 5/20/2011 11:00 AM, Becky McEllistrem wrote:
> This is a general comment for all so I post it here.
>
> The SCA is an organization which strives to be medieval.  It was never intended to be an organization which strives to make the individual feel special.
>
> There are special things that happen in SCA like meeting some of the best friends I've ever had and incredibly gorgeous works of art along with events that draw by the thousands.
>
> But there are also special things that happen in real life - a birth, a marriage, winning competitions, the growth of a business and lots of other kinds of events that draw the thousands.
>
> The scope of the SCA was always to be a society of courtesy that studied the middle ages.  It was never to make any one person or group of people to feel more special than the rest.
>
> Thus if you focus serious importance on your need to be special and expect SCA to solve this need for you then you're playing for all the wrong reasons and will always be disappointed.
>
> You will always be disappointed because what one Crown can change a future Crown can change back.
>
> You can spend hours and hours and hundreds of dollars trying to control the future but what you find out in the long run is that controlling the future is just not possible.
>
> If you want SCA to fulfill your need to be special I recommend a serious look at yourself and your focus.  Any changes made will never be enough for long enough.
>
>
>
> Rebecca the Contrary
> whose friends always made her feel special!<grin>
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