[MR] Society notice

[Logan]

her excellency could not be more right.  sexual harassment in the sca is at
a level that i personally find disgusting.  ive spoken to more than one man
about the boundaries that should exist around people and ive seen them
continue on like nothing was the matter with lewd conduct and unsolicited
contact.  and i fully understand that some women are afraid to tell these
tales or, even worse, embarrassed to tell.  hogwash.  if you fall into one
of those categories come tell me, or any peer you trust.  but you have to
tell someone.

look, these pigs think that they are doing women a favor when they make
sexual offers or initiate sexual contact.  most of them are so stupid they
dont understand the difference.  so?  does that make it right?  does it make
it right that there are women that welcome that kind of non-intimate random
contact?  no.  it makes it right for them, sure, but not for everyone.
society says its wrong to kick these guys in the teeth so we cant go that
route.  i think thats too bad.  but society has a duty to protect those that
have been put upon.  we can do that but only if you let us.  

so please, if you ever find yourself in a situation in which some guy is
being a pig and you dont welcome it say so.  say so loudly if you are in a
crowd of people.  no does mean no.  then tell someone so we can correct this
behavior.  but please please please say something.  if you are afraid of
that person and you are alone protect yourself.  get away as safely as you
can.  then find someone and tell them.  i, for one, would be happy to assist
you as i know many good people would.

the sca is a great place and an ideal example of a society.  lets not become
one that invites, accepts, or tolerates inappropriate sexual behavior from
anyone regardless if hes at his first event or if he is a triple peer.  no
exceptions, no tolerance.

regards
logan

 
 
 
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-----Original Message-----
From: atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org
[mailto:atlantia-bounces at atlantia.sca.org] On Behalf Of Christy Dollymore
Sent: Wednesday, April 11, 2007 6:24 PM
To: atlantia at atlantia.sca.org
Subject: Re: [MR] Society notice

Greetings,

I applaud the decision of the Society to run background checks.  While not a
way to determine IF people will offend...  it WILL be a deterrent,
especially if they HAVE offended.  I will be happy to donate to a fund to
pay for these checks. This subject segways me into something that is just as
horrid. Sexual Harassment. 

As far as adults being sexually harassed by SCA people at SCA sponsored
events,  REPORT REPORT REPORT!  Our Kingdom has a grievance policy, use it.
Report to your local law enforcement officials as well. Verbal sexual banter
that makes you uncomfortable is SEXUAL HARASSMENT and a reportable offense.
Don't let hats or titles keep you from reporting bad behavior.    

When I was new, there were folks that thought it OK to constantly talk about
their sexual escapades in the very public arena of baronial activities, with
CHILDREN PRESENT.  Sometimes their sexual banter was directed at me.  I was
totally embarassed and as most, did not report the offense.  

As Baroness, I had several horrible scenarios reported to me where newcomers
were sexually harassed , they were mortified and NEVER CAME BACK. The sexual
nature of the conversation going on, much of it directed at the newcomer,
was hideous, again with children present. I could not officially report it
to law enforcement because I wasn't there.  I did report it to SCA
"officers".  I tried... I made calls.. There was nothing else I could do.

The kingdom paying 6-700 dollars to attempt to screen potential youth
supervisors is far less than the money the SCA might pay in legal expenses
if a predator strikes.

In Service,
Baroness Elizabeth Harlyn
Kingdom of Atlantia
House Blackspear

   

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