[MR] Explanation

[Alianora Munro]

--- Sunniva Kyrre <sunniva_kyrre at verizon.net> wrote:

> Our apologies to any of the posters, who were
> offering their opinion, if they felt our post was
> aimed at them.
> 
> More than just this subject prompted it. It was
> because of seeing on this list, other lists, at
> events, people getting upset, and instead of a
> private discussion, blasting someone or hurting
> someone's feelings in a public forum. It was to be a
> reminder to all; especially orders, that we are
> suppose to be acting with chivalry and courtesy. As
> the members of the orders, they are the examples
> that others look toward.  We will never all agree.
> But maybe we can think twice about how we handle
> those disagreements. 
> 
>   
> 
> Sunniva and Turgeis

You are quite right that we *all* (and that's peers
and non-peers alike) should hold themselves to high
standards of courtesy in our conversations with each
other.  Let us remember always, though, that public
disagreement is not the same thing as rudeness (or
'flaming,' or 'blasting' or however one wishes to put
it) nor is it disloyalty.

When I was elevated to the Order of the Laurel, I
placed my hand on the the sword of state and gave an
oath to offer, to the best of my ability, good counsel
to the Crown.  Good counsel, as I understand it, means
saying what Their Majesties need to hear, not always
what they want to hear, and it means sometimes
standing up and saying it loudly, in public, so that
others hear it too.

It is also the prerogative of the Crown to say 'thanks
for sharing, but we disagree.'  And so long as neither
of us calls the other an idiot or dismisses the other
out of hand, I don't think we have a problem with lack
of courtesy, chivalry, or good playground manners in
general.

(And, I should point out, disagreeing with your king,
and offering him counsel he might not like (and may
well ignore) is entirely mediaeval.  Consider the
relationship between the French crowns and the Valois
dukes of Burgundy, for instance.  Or consider how no
Anglo-Saxon king would have dared take action without
first taking counsel with his _witangemot_. 
Cantankerous, opinionated subjects are perfectly 'in
period').

Opinionatedly,

'nora
only occasionally cantankerous

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Dame Alianora Munro, OL
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