[MR] Wanna see my impression of Hamlet's dad?

[Laurie Clarkston]

Dear Eric,

I think what you wrote took courage beyond anything you might have ever done
if in a different situation.  I don't agree with you attacking the rapier
community at large, but I understand why you lashed out and included
everyone.  No one will ever come close to understanding your pain and what
you are suffering except you.  Some have been in positions similar to yours
and each person's pain is different.  It is always sad when a marriage
breaks up for whatever reason.  That sadness is compounded by the events
that lead to the break-up.

Sometimes the pain is so great that the only way to have any feeling other
than agonizing sadness is to vent through anger.  I think you chose your
words carefully and I think some of your vent is not for the loss of your
marriage, but also the loss of those who were "your friends."  When a
marriage dissolves, so do some friendships.  People you considered friends
betrayed you.  That is a pain equaled to the loss of your marriage.  For
some people, the loss of friendship is greater than the loss of the
marriage.  It is embarrassing to think that others knew what was going on
and you didn't.

You're in pain because you felt you were in a loving relationship for 12
years.  That pain is unbearable, but to have it publicly displayed among
your peers is something that cannot be described in words or emotions.  The
loss of your marriage and friendships is something you have to morn.  If you
had a close member of your family that you loved dearly suddenly die, the
pain of that loss is equaled to the pain you are feeling right now.  You are
left in a state of despair that wounds you to the very soul of your heart.

People have different time frames for morning.  You cannot speed it up, nor
can you ignore it.  You will heal in time, however long it takes, and there
will always be a little part of you that died.  I cannot give you magic
words that will take away your sadness.  Find the part of you that is still
whole and take care of it.  You will grow stronger and one day you will
enjoy life again.  Don't let despair rule your life.  You have a long
journey ahead of you.  I have been there.  It hurts, but the pain does ease
with time.  God Bless you Eric.

Lady Cairistiona de Covern

----- Original Message -----
From: "Eric Stoneking" <henri_is_dead at yahoo.com>
To: <atlantia at atlantia.sca.org>
Sent: Sunday, January 05, 2003 8:38 AM
Subject: [MR] Wanna see my impression of Hamlet's dad?


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