[MR] Re: untimely discussions

[Rowanwald Central]

Becky McEllistrem wrote:
> > What possible use could rehashing bad incidents at
> > events serve except to embarrass the autocrat who
> > most  likely had their own grief already.

Magdalena responded:
> Sometimes Baron/esses and seneschals end up
> doing mop up of such incidents in private
> conversations that start with something like
> "He's being mean to me, make
> it stop!" or "I want to start a formal complaint" or
> "how can we keep that from happening here?".
> It's nice to have some facts to work with if those
> are your aims.

   Thank you, Magdalena, that was precisely my need. I did not mean to start
a nasty thread here on the Merry Rose (I actually thought my message would
be a tiny drop in a multiple-message bucket), but "fire extinguishing" is
part of the job and hard to do if we didn't attend the event under
discussion.
  Since I'm not subscribed to the lists where this is being discussed (and
I'm sorry - had I known that it was, I'd asked someone from my group who was
on one of those lists to fill me in), I was hoping to get a quick and
private response so I could dampen the rumours in my area. Which I did, and
I thank everyone who responded to my plea.
   As far as what Rebecca asked, sometimes it is important to know of these
type of incidents. As an example, it was learning of the (random) incidents
of children being destructive at events that helped sharpen the focus on the
need for children's activities and the Page's Academy. We became aware that
we were losing part of our resources for the future through boredom.
   If every event is portrayed as a fine one without any problems - well...
don't I wish! But learning of difficulties helps future Autocrats try to
plan to avoid them and that is important too, I believe. If you never hear
that toities run out of paper - you don't plan on bringing extra supplies.

In service,
Rosine